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Why do I keep choosing “Familiar Hell” over “Unfamiliar Heaven”?
Am I really in Love or is it Trauma bonding?
This very question was asked to me when I dealt with someone going through a never ending toxic phase in their relationship.
There’s this following series of questions which made me dive deeper into this topic — :
“Why do I always give them another chance when I already know it is going to happen again?.
“Why I cannot make up my mind to leave whatever this relationship is?”.
“What is trauma Bonding?”
“How do I know if is it love or trauma bonding?”
“How do I get out of this never ending vicious cycle?”
So here I am with this riddle of preferring “known chaos” over “unknown peace”.
Trauma Bonding
A deep emotional attachment and/or connection that develops as a result of (whether emotional, mental, verbal or even physical) abuse or mistreatment between the person being abused and the other person abusing them.
Trauma bond forms because it is difficult for the victim to escape the toxic relationship since they are terrified, confused, and dependent on the abuser.
